Sunday, January 12, 2020

How to Be Who You Want to Be

You're excited. It's a new year and you're ready to become someone you want to be. But, how do you even do that? How do you become your ideal self? Where do you even start? Well, you've come to the right place on how to do just that in this post How to Be Who You Want to Be.

I just want to start off by saying that despite what a big task this seems to be, it's relatively easy to become who you want to be. A lot of it is mental. It just takes a lot of mind reframing and a lot of self-discipline. Anyone can be who they want to be. You're not stuck being someone you're unhappy with. I'm so proud of you for making this decision to be your best self and I believe in you.

Sunday, September 22, 2019

What Even is the Correct Skincare Routine Order?

You know, your skin does so much for you. It protects you from unwanted invaders from entering your body and keeps water inside you. It's an essential part of keeping you alive. So, why not return the favor back by treating your skin well with your skincare routine?

If you don't really care about how much your skin for you, at least do your skincare routine regularly for yourself. It's the ultimate act of self-care. When you're doing your skincare routine, you're taking time and taking care of yourself. You feel fresh, clean, and moisturized after you've done your skincare regimen.

I know that some of you guys want to start taking care of your skin, but don't even know where to begin. Your main question probably is What Even is the Correct Skincare Routine? Along with:

  • Is the skincare routine order for morning and night the same?
  • How do I layer skincare?
  • What is really necessary?
  • What does a serum even do?
All of these I'll answer in this post!

Sunday, June 30, 2019

How to Care Less About What People Think

How to stop caring what people think and/or how to care less about what people think for the self conscious

Caring about what people think of you is a completely valid, normal feeling. It can lead to anxiety and fear, which, again, is completely normal. There's no shame in feeling like this or be concerned that there's something wrong with you despite the fact that's probably how you feel.

It's biologically ingrained in us to want to be with people. Humans are social creatures. We have lived in communities since the beginning of humanity so we can survive. In other words, we need other people to survive. So, it makes sense you don't want people to think you're weird because you literally feel like you're going to be ostracized by society!

I'm here to tell you that your biological instinct may be a little overdramatic. The downfall of pretending to be who you think you should be will lead you to a road of inauthenticity and will leave you feeling anxious and like you're being suffocated. On the other hand, if you finally decide to say, "Fuck it! I'm going to be myself!" or "I'm just going to do it!", you will feel free and realize that people actually like you for you and not someone that you're pretending to be. 

But, how do you get over that anxiety of being yourself or get started on doing what you think is right for you? Let me just start off by saying that I don't personally believe that you will ever really completely stop caring about what people think. But, I do think you can care a lot less than you do now. So, without further ado, here are my tips for How to Care Less About What People Think of You.

Thursday, May 9, 2019

Friendly Reminder: Your Brain Is Lying

Self care and reality check for anxiety and anxious people.

Do you find yourself freaking out because you have this internal monologue saying, "You aren't good enough." Or, "Nobody likes you." Or, "You're stupid." Or, "You shouldn't be yourself." Or other extremely negative thought patterns you have about yourself? Yeah, I have them, too. It's annoying, right? But, you know what? Our brains are actually lying to us. We're doing fine. You're doing fine, way better than you think you're doing. You're good enough. You're loved. You're smart in your own way. And, you really should be yourself and do what is authentic to yourself.

I know that your anxiety is taking over. So, take a deep breath with me. Take the biggest breath you've taken throughout the whole day. In the words of YogaWithAdriene, breathe lots of love in.  And now breathe out through your mouth. Breathe lots of love out. Now, close your eyes and focus on your breath. Take two more breaths. When you're done, open your eyes and read the rest of this post! Or, not, totally up to you.

This probably won't alleviate your anxiety and negative thought process right away, but at least for this moment, you're okay. 

This is your reality check. You're doing great. Even when you don't feel like it, you're still worthy. And, remember, your brain can be a negative, lying bitch sometimes.

My inspiration for this post (you know other than my anxiety): 

If you know anyone who needs this, please share it with them! For more self-care, read Friendly Reminder: Don't Compare Yourself!

Monday, April 15, 2019

Root for Growth's Top 5 Personal Finance Tips

When people think of dealing with their finances, they may think, "Ew, gross." Some people might even prefer to stay in the dark when it comes their finances because they're scared to face how bad it might be. Others would rather not be bothered by it because they're just too lazy to figure it all out. If you're one of those people, I'm calling you out: that's a terrible stragety and it can get you into a ton of financial trouble.

I know it might be tedious, annoying, and stressful to get started, but you know what else is tedious, annoying, and stressful? Having creditors come after you, not being able to apply for a place to live or a loan because of your low credit score, and trying to figure out how you're going to pay for your bills. (I've heard it's even worse.)

So, how do you take a step towards financial stability? The biggest step is with financial literacy. You can do that by reading personal finance books and blogs and/or taking a financial literacy course. And, yay! You've already taken a step towards your financial future by reading this blog post because I'm going to share with you guys Root for Growth's Top 5 Personal Finance Tips.

Thursday, April 4, 2019

Love is a Choice

So, this post is a little different. This one will be more of a personal essay as opposed to a more factual post because you know I love science and all. So, without further ado, here's Love is a Choice.

One day my cousin Jackie and I were laying on her bed talking about love and relationships. With questions like, what does it even really mean to be "in love"? My idea of love for a long time came from movies and TV shows that I used to watch when I was a kid.

After rewatching some of these shows and movies, I've come to discover my idea of love was actually extremely unhealthy. Like, Phoebe and Cole's love from Charmed. When I was younger, I used to think it was so romantic that Cole just wanted to be with Phoebe. He just didn't want to let her go even though she insisted that she didn't want to be with him anymore...several times. But in actuality, he was crazy and unhealthily obsessed with her.

Saturday, March 30, 2019

5 Common Disempowering Phrases We Use

These phrases are disempowering and promote disempowerment, which is why we need to know these phrases to encourage using empowering words and promote empowering others, empowerment, and empowerment activities.

I was reading How to Be a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero. From pages 81 to 84, she talks about how we need to watch what we say because it can stop us from manifesting money into our lives. When I was reading this section, it got me thinking of how powerful words are. They can affect how we feel, how we see ourselves, how people see us, and they can give or take power away from us. I started thinking of and researching phrases that disempower us. And, you know what? We say a lot of phrases that can disempower us.

I didn't realize how much I said these phrases until I caught myself saying them often. I was subconsciously disempowering myself for 22 years! It only seemed right to share these 5 Common Disempowering Phrases We Use to prevent you guys from unknowingly disempowering yourselves, too.